If you're looking for an in-the-bedroom-only harness then look no further. Joque from Spareparts Hardware is a double-strap jock style harness that gets the job done. It even comes with a drawstring bag to store it in when it's not being used! It's built for any couples use whether you're cis-, trans*, or anywhere on the gender non-conforming spectrum.
Material: Nylon & Spandex (swimsuit material - which makes this harness ideal for in the shower/pool play!) with Velcro closures. It's friendly for those living a Vegetarian/Vegan lifestyle.
Size: The Size A model fits a 20-50" waist whereas the Size B model fits a 35-65" waist when the belt is fully adjusted. Head on over to this link for a complete sizing chart.
O-Ring Size: The O-Ring is designed to fit toys that are roughly 2" diameter. However, the O-Ring itself is stretchable and made from elastic. It could fairly easily fit something that is 3" in diameter. The O-Rings are not interchangeable which for some users may be a problem.
It's easy enough to get this guy on when you're thinking clearly. You simply step into it like any other jock on the market. Then you adjust the sliders and velcro straps to your comfort for a snug fit. I never had problems getting this on. Neither did my now-ex boyfriend when he used it on me. Both of us found it to be super comfortable and sturdy enough to handle rough sex.
The back of the pouch opens up and that's where you slide your toy in and through the O-Ring from. This particular packer is sometimes a little difficult to get through the O-Ring due to its desire to stick to the fabric. My Packer (VixSkin Mr. Right) and dildo (Tantus Throb) fit in this harness with room to spare. You want to make the belt and leg straps snug enough to keep your packer from moving around too much or falling out the back. The packer is heavy enough that if the harness is too loose, well, you'll have issues.
Newer models of this harness actually have little pouches inside of the flaps at the base of the O-Ring where you can attach mini-bullet vibes. The model I own does not. However, there is some spare room at the bottom of the pouch where you could place a mini-bullet inside of it but I'd be cautious of that as it may try to slip out.
With this being a jock style harness it's built so that whoever is doing the fucking can still receive anal and vaginal action. For me, as a total bottom boy, this is fabulous. It's also super fun to receive penetration being bent over the back of a couch or a table.
The one problem I ran into with this harness was trying to use it for stealthily packing. It's just too bulky to be concealed under a pair of jeans. If you want a harness for packing - this guy just wasn't built for that. After having this harness hyped to me when I originally purchased it I was pretty disappointed that it wasn't as stealthily made as I'd been told it was. Granted, it was the best on the market at the time for trans* and gender non-conforming folks to play with.
You'll want to wash it before using it for the first time. You can either hand wash this harness or throw it in with a load of similarly colored items. Don't throw it in with white stuff the first time you wash it or you may end up with pink undershirts. The red will bleed the first time it's washed. Tumble dry in low heat or lay flat to air dry. Keep it out of direct sunlight to avoid any chance of the color fading.
Overall, I love this harness for in-the-bedroom play. It's comfortable and sturdy. I sometimes even get aroused from the pouch and whatever toy is inside of it rubbing against my junk. I guess that's a perk of having T-related growth down below. None of the DIY harness I've tried in the past can even shake a stick at this guy. Shout out to Tulip Toy Gallery for having this in their store and being helpful when I purchased it.